October 1, 2009 Expectations. Big word, huh? So much of our life is defined, and in many cases CONfined, by expectations. Just like the expectations we have of ourselves and others and the expectations others have of themselves and us have a significant impact on our relationships, our self-esteem and self-confidence, our experiences, and our ministries. Likewise, all those expectations affect our mentoring. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that the clarification of expectations is one of the most significant factors in the success of any mentoring process. Thus, it is vitally important that those issues are considered and evaluated BEFORE a mentor/mentee relationship begins. The reality is that if you are not comfortable with correcting someone or holding someone responsible for their actions or inaction - being a mentor to someone with a strong personality is probably not a good match. Likewise, if you expect your mentee to be focused on Bible memorization and study, but your mentee is not prepared to devote much time to the process - one, or probably both, of you will feel unfulfilled by the relationship. Teri Lynne is an avid lover of books, constant drinker of strong coffee (with lots of sugar and creamer), and passionate follower of Christ. Married to Scott since 1996 and mother of Casiday since 2000, Teri Lynne, in her words, is living her own happily ever after...mostly. Writing and teaching women to live empowered, confident lives in Christ and HIS strength is a dream come true for her. She is working on her first book in between teaching Bible studies, volunteering at a crisis pregnancy center, helping with homework, and trying to conquer laundry mountain. Oh yeah, she's a pastor's wife too...whew! You can find her musings almost daily at the "Pleasing to You" Blog where she encourages, challenges and inspires others to pursue lives that are pleasing to God. |